Facing Cancer Treatment Alone

Ask for the support you need

Coping with cancer is difficult, even if you have a family or partner to support you. Many people in the United States live on their own and rely on themselves for everyday chores and tasks. However, this may change with a cancer diagnosis, because your energy and resources are taken up by cancer treatment and getting well. But, you do not have to face cancer completely alone. There are many ways to receive the support you need at this time. You may need to depend on extended family members, or on close friends. This may be difficult if you are used to living independently, but it may be a good time to open up to people and ask for help.

While it is challenging to face cancer alone, it is not impossible if you create a network of people close to you to help. Your loved ones will most likely want to help you through this time, even if it is uncomfortable to ask.

• Start by reaching out to your network of people with options of how they can help you, depending on your level of comfort. People can sign up to make you meals, run errands for you, or even come over and keep you company a few nights a week. You will need both practical and emotional support
• You can also rely on your community to help you as well. Churches, some towns, or organizations like the American Cancer Society may be able to connect you with volunteers that provide light services like transportation or homecare
• Make a list of friends, family, and coworkers that can be your emergency contact and keep those numbers within reach for when you need assistance
• If you cannot bring someone to your doctor appointments, record the appointment so you can play it back later and take notes
• Join a cancer support group and you may find other people who are also single and going through cancer treatment

Keep a healthy mindset

Remember, you have most likely faced many challenges alone and this is no exception. It is ok to ask for support from people you trust, they want to be there for you. Do not try to do it all yourself, it is important to rest and listen to your body so you can keep your energy focused on getting well. Let those who love you be there for you the best they can, even if it feels uncomfortable at times. With some effort and outreach, you may be surprised by the number of people in your support system.